HAPPY 3RD WEDDING MONTHSARY TO US!I love you more & more each day.
Alhamdulillah for this lovely life with you.
Insyallah till we grow older and till the next life, we'll be together at Paradise too.
Insyallah. Amin
Friday, March 25, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
CONFESSION OF A BROKEN HEART
When I refrain myself from talking back, you said my attitude is over your limit but when I fight for my rights, you said I'm disrespectful and being very rebellious. Since I was born, I don't feel like you appreciate me as much as you appreciate others. I feel like I'm always at the last of your priorities. I feel like as if I'm not important to you and I'm a nobody in your eyes.
You said I was rude for hurling vulgarities to Mu and said that since marriage, my attitude changed from bad to worst. You said I'm a bad person. You said you never said such things to Mu and it's a sin to say it.
But have you ever think when you said, I'm stupid, I'm a good for nothing person, I'm a disgracing person and all the negatives words.
Have you ever think of my feelings then? NO! Not at all. You don't care about my feelings. You just don't care. You scold you nag but all I did was keep quiet. And all you said was, my attitude since marriage change from bad to worst?
I just don't understand how you see me as a daughter. Whatever I do, everything seems amiss in your eyes. You never motivate me with the things I love to do. You always look down on me. You always say I will never succeed with this kind of attitude.
When I'm out to work, you demand for money but when I give you part of my salary you said it's not enough and you wanted more. When I said I can't because I need money for my daily expenses, you scolded me. You said I owe you a lot. Yes I know I owe you money but I too needed money for myself and husband. Plus with the situation my husband is having now, we needed money for our daily expenses not only for my own needs.
You compared me with Tin and you said she's way better than me in financial matters. You said she's a good cook. You said all the good things about her and comparing me. Why is that so? Why because I'm a lousy person?
Sometimes, I feel that, you're not my biological mother. You treated me like I'm not your daughter. Even the expenses for my wedding, I know you paid most of the wedding needs but it's not sincerely from your heart. I believe that you were forced to fork out your money for my sake. Now, you're demanding me like as if I won't pay you back. Like as if I'm going to run away from debts.
Sigh. I wish that you could understand my situation. I wish you could see me as a daughter not as a stranger or a criminal. I wish that we could be best friends. But my wish is a fat hope. I know that you will never change. NEVER!
What I can do now is to pray for you. I will always pray for you. Even if we're not in talking terms. My reason for refraining myself from talking to you is because, I know that whenever I tried to say something, you will always have so much negativity to say about it. Everything is wrong. Then you will nag non-stop. I really don't like it when you start creating a fuss about little things.
I will always pray that Allah will forgive you for all the hurt that you've caused me. I will pray for your good health and long life. I will pray that you will be a good mother in the near future. Amin.
You said I was rude for hurling vulgarities to Mu and said that since marriage, my attitude changed from bad to worst. You said I'm a bad person. You said you never said such things to Mu and it's a sin to say it.
But have you ever think when you said, I'm stupid, I'm a good for nothing person, I'm a disgracing person and all the negatives words.
Have you ever think of my feelings then? NO! Not at all. You don't care about my feelings. You just don't care. You scold you nag but all I did was keep quiet. And all you said was, my attitude since marriage change from bad to worst?
I just don't understand how you see me as a daughter. Whatever I do, everything seems amiss in your eyes. You never motivate me with the things I love to do. You always look down on me. You always say I will never succeed with this kind of attitude.
When I'm out to work, you demand for money but when I give you part of my salary you said it's not enough and you wanted more. When I said I can't because I need money for my daily expenses, you scolded me. You said I owe you a lot. Yes I know I owe you money but I too needed money for myself and husband. Plus with the situation my husband is having now, we needed money for our daily expenses not only for my own needs.
You compared me with Tin and you said she's way better than me in financial matters. You said she's a good cook. You said all the good things about her and comparing me. Why is that so? Why because I'm a lousy person?
Sometimes, I feel that, you're not my biological mother. You treated me like I'm not your daughter. Even the expenses for my wedding, I know you paid most of the wedding needs but it's not sincerely from your heart. I believe that you were forced to fork out your money for my sake. Now, you're demanding me like as if I won't pay you back. Like as if I'm going to run away from debts.
Sigh. I wish that you could understand my situation. I wish you could see me as a daughter not as a stranger or a criminal. I wish that we could be best friends. But my wish is a fat hope. I know that you will never change. NEVER!
What I can do now is to pray for you. I will always pray for you. Even if we're not in talking terms. My reason for refraining myself from talking to you is because, I know that whenever I tried to say something, you will always have so much negativity to say about it. Everything is wrong. Then you will nag non-stop. I really don't like it when you start creating a fuss about little things.
I will always pray that Allah will forgive you for all the hurt that you've caused me. I will pray for your good health and long life. I will pray that you will be a good mother in the near future. Amin.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
10 Tips on How to be a Successful Wife
1. Use your 'Fitnah' (beauty & overtures of allurement) to win the heart of your husband.
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah SWT has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband. Dress up for your husband at home. Wear the colours and clothes that he likes to see you in and use makeup, perfume & jewellery.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets & worn pretty dresses, as described in the Qur'an. Continue this tradition as a wife. In short, whatever it takes to be attractive to him.
2. Be sensitive to his moods, feelings & needs. For example, don’t start complaining or burden him with problems as soon as he comes home.
Rather, welcome him and make him feel good to be home. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife. a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you?
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn (women of jannah), and try to imitate them.
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them.
4. Do things together or at least allocate some time of the day to give him your undivided attention.
Be sincere in appreciating him, show interest in his day, his activities, thoughts & opinions. Give him advice & comfort him when needed. Spend his money carefully & try to keep him informed of where money is being spent. Dont spend large amounts of money without permission. Show caring and concern for his relatives as this is a sure way of securing a place in his heart. Never object when he spends on them, as this is a source of abundance in provision and increase in life span.
5. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humour.
As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
6. Be grateful to your husband. Remind yourself that it’s a tough world out there and your husband works very hard to provide for you.
So whatever you do, don’t compare him to other men, unless it is favourably. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Let him know that you appreciate his efforts, not just through your words, but also your actions. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. Don’t fly into a rage when you have a difference of opinion or he criticizes you.
Stay calm, control your tongue and don’t challenge your husband’s authority at that time. Use your wisdom, tactics and powers of persuasion later to try to explain your point of view. Believe the best not the worst of him. Be forgiving & accept apologies graciously rather than holding grudges & bringing up past mistakes. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "I'm sorry"
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to jannah.
Rasulullah SAW taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter jannah. So please him. Simple things like the foods he likes, remembering that variety is the spice of life. Try to eat together as this fosters companionship.
9. Listen and do what he asks you. Obeying your husband is fard (obligatory).
Remember that your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not entail any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect for your husband by not divulging your private and confidential issues to others. Do not complain about him to people or discuss your small marital problems and issues with those who cannot help you.
10. Make dua to Allah SWT to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.
Never forget to ask Allah SWT for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this dunya and continues on into jannah. Ameen. May Allah SWT give us the favour of changing what we can change (like ourselves) ... patience with what we cannot change (like our spouse), and the wisdom to understand the difference.
Credits : @Islamicthinking
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah SWT has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband. Dress up for your husband at home. Wear the colours and clothes that he likes to see you in and use makeup, perfume & jewellery.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets & worn pretty dresses, as described in the Qur'an. Continue this tradition as a wife. In short, whatever it takes to be attractive to him.
2. Be sensitive to his moods, feelings & needs. For example, don’t start complaining or burden him with problems as soon as he comes home.
Rather, welcome him and make him feel good to be home. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife. a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you?
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn (women of jannah), and try to imitate them.
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them.
4. Do things together or at least allocate some time of the day to give him your undivided attention.
Be sincere in appreciating him, show interest in his day, his activities, thoughts & opinions. Give him advice & comfort him when needed. Spend his money carefully & try to keep him informed of where money is being spent. Dont spend large amounts of money without permission. Show caring and concern for his relatives as this is a sure way of securing a place in his heart. Never object when he spends on them, as this is a source of abundance in provision and increase in life span.
5. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humour.
As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
6. Be grateful to your husband. Remind yourself that it’s a tough world out there and your husband works very hard to provide for you.
So whatever you do, don’t compare him to other men, unless it is favourably. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Let him know that you appreciate his efforts, not just through your words, but also your actions. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. Don’t fly into a rage when you have a difference of opinion or he criticizes you.
Stay calm, control your tongue and don’t challenge your husband’s authority at that time. Use your wisdom, tactics and powers of persuasion later to try to explain your point of view. Believe the best not the worst of him. Be forgiving & accept apologies graciously rather than holding grudges & bringing up past mistakes. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "I'm sorry"
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to jannah.
Rasulullah SAW taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter jannah. So please him. Simple things like the foods he likes, remembering that variety is the spice of life. Try to eat together as this fosters companionship.
9. Listen and do what he asks you. Obeying your husband is fard (obligatory).
Remember that your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not entail any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect for your husband by not divulging your private and confidential issues to others. Do not complain about him to people or discuss your small marital problems and issues with those who cannot help you.
10. Make dua to Allah SWT to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.
Never forget to ask Allah SWT for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this dunya and continues on into jannah. Ameen. May Allah SWT give us the favour of changing what we can change (like ourselves) ... patience with what we cannot change (like our spouse), and the wisdom to understand the difference.
Credits : @Islamicthinking
Sunday, March 20, 2011
10 Tips on How to be A Successful Husband.
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.
Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah SAW would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasulullah SAW had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.
Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us.
Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment!
This is 1 of the ways Rasulullah SAW used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives RA. It is something that very few muslim men have learnt or practice with their wives.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her & embrace her often. Smiling is sadaqah & your wife is not exempt from the muslim ummah.
Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. :) Remember also those Ahadith when Rasulullah SAW would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! :)
Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't be that person; thank her! :)
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again.
It may be hard to recognize what makes her happy. You don't have to guess, ask her and work on repeating those things in your life.
8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes men look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasulullah SAW set the example for us.
When Safiyyah RA was crying because she had been put on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Make her laugh, have little 'inside' jokes and moments with her.
Honestly your wifes laughter is one of the best sounds in life. Make her smile keep her happy. :) Look at how Rasulullah SAW would race his wife Aisha RA in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Rasulullah SAW said, "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
Never forget to make dua to Allah SWT to make your marriage successful. And Allah SWT knows best. :)
Credits to Islamic Thinkings.
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Saturday, March 19, 2011
PHOTOSHOOT
It's been donkey's years since the last photoshoot. I was on set for 7 hours. Fatigued but worth every hour! I had truckloads of fun with the crew! Definitely can't wait for the pictures! Till the next photoshoot. Insyallah.Wednesday, March 16, 2011
OH NANA!
This little rugrat turns 2 today! Nur Adriana Bte Yahya!She can be annoying and stubborn but she's such a sweetheart.
I watched her grew since she's a little baby.
May she have a bright future and may she live longer! Amin.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
PRAY FOR JAPAN
I bet the entire world are aware of the disastrous Tsunami that hit Japan on 11th March 2011, Friday. It was an exceedingly dreadful day for them. My heartfelt condolences to the victims. May their souls rest in peace and may Allah have mercy on Japan. Amin. My colleague and I were talking about what's been going on for the past years. From deadly diseases (Sars, swine flu etc), to terrorism, to natural disaster and much much more. Sad. Let's all say a prayer for the people of Japan and for the world to be at peace.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
TAYONG DALAWA
Tayong Dalawa; A Filipino drama. I'm totally in love with this drama. It's about love and sacrifices. A must watch! Towards the end, it gets mournful which leads me to tears. Yes, I cried. Such a sad ending. Overall, it was an awesome drama! All 3 main actors and actress looks abosofuckinglutely gorgeous and stunning! =)Tuesday, March 1, 2011
ESHA'S 21ST BIRTHDAY!
My pretty girlfriend turned 21 today. Alhamdulillah. May Allah bless her with a good life and good health. Amin. Attended her party over at Costa Sands Downtown East. I miss this girl terribly. The last time we met was on my Wedding reception, 26th Dec 2010. That long! Tell me about it. We've been so busy with our own life. I'm elated to meet her and Hazar too! The good old times. We had fun at the party. Too much fun till it was almost to 12 midnight. Kiss and hug goodbye to my two pretty heads. Definitely gonna miss them. Wonder when we'll meet again?
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